Monitoring daughter's gmail account

[Moonbat]

Is there something I could use to monitor her activity? Since she doesn't log in at home, would it be possible to attach something to a zip file of pictures or something? We've all been told not to open exe files......

My other question would be about the legality of this....if it were to install on one of her school computers, etc.

Even though these two questions have been answered I'll answer them again.

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2. This would be illegal if installed on a school computer, unless you are granted permission from the proper authroities.

We don't know you, and we can't be sure whether you are bluffing or not. Don't expect us to embrace you with open arms. You don't have to get offended by everything we say, that's how we act with everyone. As far as we are concerned you are 7*.**.***.** (replaced some numbers with asterisks to give you privacy). You are just four octets. Everyone here is just four octets.

[LIT]

Moonbat,

Thank you for your reply. People can think what they will of me. I'm in a difficult position here. And I realize that these people don't know me. But I still fail to see how the comment about the 'fruit of my womb' being a succubus could be interpreted as anything but ugly.

I don't think I am a parent who sways that far from the norm. Many parents are faced with the difficult issue of privacy vs being a parent responsible for their child's actions. The lines aren't so black and white anymore.

As for the person who said I'm probably a guy who's trying to hack my girlfriend's account.....well, I'll just tell you the same thing I tell my boyfriend when he says something equally absurd. "OK...you're right."

If it's illegal, I don't want to do it. The more I think about it, I do agree with the privacy issue. I don't really want to 'spy' on her. I simply want to check to make sure that this change in her behavior is not associated with something dangerous.

I appreciate the information that has been provided. But, again, I don't want to do anything illegal. I will try to decide whether or not I wish to put something on our computer at home. If I do put something on the computer at home, then perhaps I will remove it afterwards, and remind my daughter that it's always a good idea to change her passwords every once in a while.

To those who think I am 'extreme' or don't know me.....it's not easy being a parent. Especially when a lot of *2 year olds are going on *8 these days. We are told to look for certain behaviors that might be indicative of drug use, depression, or bad behavior. Sudden changes in behavior and secrecy are things that we are told to watch out for.

A drug addict is not going to tell their parents they are using drugs. A flirtatious encounter on the internet may not be something she feels like confiding in me. Maybe she's becoming sexually active, and doesn't think it's any of my business. Who knows what she would or wouldn't tell me. All I know is that she's exhibiting some of the 'red flag' behaviors that we are all told to watch out for.

Please don't be so quick to judge someone you don't know. Not all of us are looking to 'read our child's diary'.....some of us just want to make sure we aren't going to find our child pregnant.....or raped..... or dead somewhere. Especially when we could have prevented it by just following up on those red flags. That's a guilt no parent should have to live with.

[Moonbat]

Installing any privacy montoring programs on your computer (provided the computer is yours, as in, you bought it) is totally legal. As for school computers though it'd be illegal.

I'm not a parent so I guess I can't understand how you feel. I'm not gonna try to give you advice, but I do stand by my statement recommeding you to beat her. East Asian (Chinese, Japanese, etc.) kids' parents beat them, and except for the rare Cho Seung-Wui type of kid, most of those kids are obedient, respectful kids ranked very high in their classes.

[gordo]

Another good reason for monitoring the home computer is: if your child is doing something illegal, the parent is sometimes responsible for the child legally. And guess who ends up paying for the lawyer?

[SyntaXmasteR]

Good ol American justice system. Parents are responsible for their children's actions whether it be secretly downloading illegal music, or stealing a stored away weapon and using it. But wait! Do not spank them when they are caught, it psychologically ruins a child, and spanking is illegal... hm... dont we have something called the death penalty for those who misbehave as adults? yet we cant spank our children.

Maybe its just me, but from an external view of our own country we look like a bunch of hypocritical fools.

[Sir Grifin]

I stand, you have to talk with your child and come on you are the mom, dont you have a sixth sense?, if she are on drugs, what its not too bad, or if she is sexualy active, remember when you start your sexual life how many year did you have? did you tell to your parents? or did you ? how does it feel if somebody spy you private life.... that sucks realy... this kind of thing make me sick, people like you piss me off, and if this hole thing its true you are the worst mom in the worls cause you dont have any care on your childs.....Cýa and have a nice life

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[teknicalissue]

think about about everyones right you are the mom take some responsibility and just ask her your self..even if she get defensive i doesn't matter who own the house? who pays for the food? who buys her clothes? exactly YOU DO! your in charge not her, if your seriously worried go to a therapy session with your child or maybe your self alone (not being insultive, im seriously trying to type this out as nice as possible)..look at what your doing..your asking hackers (im not speaking for everyone ..) on how to find out what your daughter is doing/ up to.. thats like putting a hit on your boss just because he didn't give you a promosion kind of thing..its extreme right? anyone agree?

[Moonbat]

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i am kwite ***rd at teh momint

[addictedone]

i'll start this with - i have no answer on how to help you that has not already been voiced, however, i wanted to let you know that i stand beside you.

as a mother of 2 girls who are active internet users i have always had their passwords, it was a requirement of being able to access the internet from home and from the library and it was also relayed to them if i could not access their email accounts because they had changed the password and did not warn me or provide it then their rights to access that i could control/observe would be removed.

those of you who are not parents may not understand the fear that we have when our children are on the internet.

the net has great and vest uses and resources and it also has many - many preadators and i wanted to know that if needed i could access their private emails. i have yet to have the need to access the emails, however i know that if needed i could.

the first step in this process was that i helped them setup their accounts and my email was their verification email address so when they do change the password the primary email receives a notification

knowing is half the battle.

my children and i have an excellent relationship and we do trust each other and we talk openly about allsubjects and we have discussed the hazards of internet and myspace life.

to this date i have only accessed * child's myspace account due to some obscene words she had used in her profile, as soon as she came home that day i told her that i had gone in and changed it and we talked about it and it has not been a problem since....

there is no shame and no harm in being prepared and having a plan should an issue arise...

Addicted One